“So you date boys AND girls? That’s greedy….”
If your sexual preference includes more than one gender you’ve probably been told this, and it probably rubbed you worse than sandpaper on eczema.
Because it should have. It makes absolutely no sense.
I am pansexual, which means I don’t care what parts you have or what gender you choose. Bisexual is different from that in the sense that a bi person would typically want a cis-gendered male or female. I don’t really care if you’re cis or trans or what have you. If you’re an awesome person (and physically attractive by my standards) then you have a chance with me. It took me a while to find that word, so for the longest time I was just telling people I was bisexual. Both forms of revealing my preference were oft times met with some dumb statements and stereotypes.
But greedy? That might take the cake of illogical. Here’s why:
Greed holds no preference, just people.
Just because my scope of dating is wider than yours, doesn’t make me any more greedy than the next person. What makes you greedy, is being greedy. There are plenty of greedy heterosexual and homosexual people. They can be the cheaters, or the players, the bachelors, etc. But here’s my question: how am I greedy if I’m still dating one person at a time?
Greed implies a limit.
Let’s be honest. If I wanted to have all the people I wanted to have, I still wouldn’t have every single human being in the world. I’m not taking 20 cookies out of a jar that has 21. My dating pool doesn’t affect yours. It didn’t change when you learned my preference. And if I happened to steal away your crush, it’s because I’m better than you. That’s it.
Is it even greed? Or do you just want to hear your voice?
It seems like anytime a person is romantically or sexually liberal, they’re deemed immoral if they’re not a cis-gendered male. If I were a straight guy, I could have a harem and it would be overlooked.
Monogamy is not the only type of love. Polyamorous people can hold healthy romantic relationships with multiple people at a time. If that works for them, then good for them. We encounter different people and beliefs everyday. As a race, humans should be conscious that there are way too many people in the world for all of us to think and feel the exact same way. Any relationship dynamic you can literally think of exists. You don’t have to agree with all the differences, but you should never put someone else down because of them. If it’s all consensual, who cares?
Those are just my big three. The main point I want to drive home is just don’t be disrespectful. You asked me for a piece of personal information and I decided to tell you. Don’t ask about my preferences and my beliefs just so you can try to shit on them.
If you have anything else to add or refute, please don’t hesitate to comment ^_^.